tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post8682286584750957484..comments2008-05-23T20:14:17.771-04:00Roberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12130098006189450520noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-14890570709411553222008-05-23T20:14:00.000-04:002008-05-23T20:14:00.000-04:00well, i host parties in dc... but they are naked parties, so there's no angst over whether to wear your collared polo or not. and i definitely don't use evites because most attendees want to be discreet.<BR/><BR/>they're for guys and girls (bi-male/bi-female parties, also all-male parties).<BR/><BR/>info at havingparties.blogspot.comdavehttp://havingparties.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-49218912238320402312008-05-20T14:42:00.000-04:002008-05-20T14:42:00.000-04:00Ice cream?! I'm in! Thanks anonymousest!Hans Nelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10159160431947708138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-23162901523539547092008-05-20T14:39:00.000-04:002008-05-20T14:39:00.000-04:00Let's all go get some buy-one-get-one-free ice cream cones, and forget this whole thing ever happened! Whatya say?<BR/><BR/>http://baskinrobbins.com/coupon/softserve.htmlAnonymousestnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-39490530798927395262008-05-19T23:08:00.000-04:002008-05-19T23:08:00.000-04:00uhm...the title of the blog is the new gay...and the point of the party is to create something new...and we're not humorless, we laugh our asses off you at you before we begin typing our posts.<BR/><BR/>if it was a fluff piece, it should have been treated as such, not as the source of a party that's supposed to be about doing something differently. and it was completely untrue of any gay party i've ever been to...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-73275528381036070222008-05-19T20:27:00.000-04:002008-05-19T20:27:00.000-04:00jesus, you humorless, leftist nofunicks drive me nuts. everything has to be about "changing roles" and "alienation" and "striving for better understanding" with you losers. it was a fluff piece. it was funny. it was mostly true, the authors glaringly misguided opinions on ms. houston aside. and robert's awesome.adam isn't herehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07649884157303072834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-24233405039994141142008-05-19T19:55:00.000-04:002008-05-19T19:55:00.000-04:00uhm, this posting is just so disappointing on so many levels. an interesting conversation could have been started about the changing role of gay etiquette brought on by sites like evite or facebook, but instead the new gay opted for homophobic quips. anyone who has ever bottomed should never again speak to robert in public (or hook up with him in private). how could anyone feel welcome at your just-say-no nancy reagan party???<BR/><BR/>love forever. eat fascists for dinner.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-55767364492525966312008-05-19T17:45:00.000-04:002008-05-19T17:45:00.000-04:00I get that Robert's post was tongue and cheek and meant to be humorous. But I still think it's part of a pattern beginning to stretch across a lot of posts here, where "defining one's self instead of being defined" means tearing down everything about "mainstream" gay culture - often behind the thin veneer of humor.<BR/><BR/>I'm sure it's not a hive mentality, but it's something I'm noticing more and more. But perhaps I'm the only reader to think so.Anonymousernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-59671014673395108002008-05-19T17:29:00.000-04:002008-05-19T17:29:00.000-04:00if you were a lady, i'd totally bump bagels <3party monsternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-4511087985288501232008-05-19T16:59:00.000-04:002008-05-19T16:59:00.000-04:00Anonymous,<BR/><BR/>My post was entirely tongue and cheek, not a TNG manifesto.<BR/><BR/>If you cannot detect humor and sarcasm, you are probably not going to enjoy the site (or least my posts). <BR/> <BR/>Party monster,<BR/>Would you like to go on a date with me?<BR/><BR/>RobertRoberthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12130098006189450520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-76789905694808299462008-05-19T16:49:00.000-04:002008-05-19T16:49:00.000-04:00i'm putting the finishing touches on a lean-to in rock creek park. no man, beast, or wood sprite shall be barred. i'm pretty sure the creek flows with a schlitz-like afterbirth, this time of year. party on.party monsternoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-23650606724002060072008-05-19T15:33:00.000-04:002008-05-19T15:33:00.000-04:00Hey, Anon... Reread the What is the New Gay post. It says that our common bond is the fact that we define our selves instead of letting mainstream culture define us. Just because we have something in common does not mean we operate with a hive mind.Michaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14531678036387047792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-69784459569572558032008-05-19T15:26:00.000-04:002008-05-19T15:26:00.000-04:00Really, Jenny, because the manifesto says that's the "common bond" among the people who write for the blog.<BR/><BR/>I understand that you are aware of the issues with space and service with Solly's, but I think it's kind of hypocritical to read a post like Robert's that attacks almost every aspect of other people's parties (music, bathrooms, drinks, dress) when there are problems with your own event as well.Anonymous #1noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-4735687257637794722008-05-19T15:20:00.000-04:002008-05-19T15:20:00.000-04:00We've searched high and low for another accessible venue that wants to give us a Thursday night. We haven't found much. We'll definitely entertain any ideas anyone has.<BR/><BR/>Jenny, as for shorts... I'm fine with 'em. Shorts always beg the question: which shoes. And to that I have no answer. Of course, it depends on the shorts.Michaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14531678036387047792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-9497307095451886972008-05-19T15:14:00.000-04:002008-05-19T15:14:00.000-04:00Every post by every person doesn't reflect some "TNG Platform." And I was genuinely asking for venue suggestions, because we're aware of the issues with space and service, and we are trying to improve the events.<BR/><BR/>Goodness, everyone sure gets riled up...Jenny Millerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01873649194078077628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-41342239816393602362008-05-19T15:07:00.000-04:002008-05-19T15:07:00.000-04:00Jenny Miller, I think you missed my point, which is along the lines of people in glass houses shouldn't throw rocks...Anonymous #1noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-67483516294255309882008-05-19T15:02:00.000-04:002008-05-19T15:02:00.000-04:00If Evite is the invitation equivalent of a Wal-Mart or a Pizza Hut, does that mean that the Facebook invitation I got to The New Gay party on Thursday is the equivalent of K-mart or Bojangles?<BR/><BR/>For a blog that purports to "define ourselves instead of letting a narrowly defined mainstream gay culture do it for us," there sure are a lot of rules to follow to fit into the "alternative" gay culture. Is there a purple pill I can take?<BR/><BR/>Is the point of this blog to encourage an inclusive community for everyone? Because lately it seems to be veering into simply providing a venue for the oppressed to become the oppressors - which doesn't seem like it will make anyone better off.<BR/><BR/>Creating a truly inclusive gay community requires building up, not tearing down others. This is a wonderful place to talk about lesser known queer events and opportunities and ideas, but it doesn't need to be a place where things that don't fall into that category are torn apart.<BR/><BR/>Making fun of house parties where everyone is dressed the same and listens to Whitney Houston just serves to alienate "mainstream" gays in the same way that they alienate "alternative" gays because they are different.<BR/><BR/>Next time you are at a party where there is more booze than mixers, make the party better for everyone and just buy some more mixers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-41358243357747949532008-05-19T14:54:00.000-04:002008-05-19T14:54:00.000-04:00New Gays for Shorts! Anyone?<BR/><BR/>Anonymous, if you have suggestions for a venue with adequate space, service and ventilation, let us know.Jenny Millerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01873649194078077628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-75959477149403057522008-05-19T14:52:00.000-04:002008-05-19T14:52:00.000-04:00I think Crocs&trade; are <A HREF="http://www.margaretcho.com/press/btour_bostonglobe.htm" REL="nofollow">okay if you're a lesbian</A>. Margaret Cho did a funny bit about the queer ladies' love of Crocs&trade; on her "Beautiful Tour". Too funny.Michaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14531678036387047792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-49593703312551913652008-05-19T14:36:00.000-04:002008-05-19T14:36:00.000-04:00There was no mention of Crocs™... are Crocs™ ok?bryanewsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-8204031728658353172008-05-19T14:27:00.000-04:002008-05-19T14:27:00.000-04:00Perhaps The New Gay should consider throwing a party at a venue with adequate bar service and ventilation - not to mention space - before it judges everyone else's parties.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-43926096605222997112008-05-18T12:05:00.000-04:002008-05-18T12:05:00.000-04:00Heaven forbid one should have an opinion about fashion and express it--and by the way, paying attention to how one looks and having a brain are not mutually exclusive. <BR/><BR/>I'm not trying to tell others what to wear, just stating my own preferences, if that's all right with you. Flip-flops are flimsy footwear not suited to city streets where one may have to walk a long way on concrete, step over broken glass, run from a mugger, &c, not to mention that parties are crowded and feet get stepped on. If you want to risk that, fine. I don't.Hans Nelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10159160431947708138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-80349298217816718222008-05-17T11:56:00.000-04:002008-05-17T11:56:00.000-04:00I'm confused about the "flip-flops" thing. I'm not a fan of feet, but I also hate fads. So bascially, here's the timeline that confuses me. I remember in the 80's there was a flip-flop trend, the 90's happened and there were no flip-flops in site, maybe some of those Adidas soccer sandals that everyone rocked for a few years. Jump to a couple years ago and everyone is wearing flip-flops again, now we're "anti-flop"... I don't care what people wear. I also hope that the new gay, meaning gay guys who aren't following the typical gay trends don't either. It's about to be hot as hell in DC, be comfy. As for shorts, who wouldn't wear shorts outside of their apartment? Why are you gonna hide your legs? So many eople are too self conscious and worry way to much about what they are wearing versus what comes out of their mouths. Then again, I only wanna see hot dudes in shorts anyway, so I guess I'll go with the old, if you got it flaunt it.Mikeyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05424604041786863180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-59817656161009542982008-05-16T21:25:00.000-04:002008-05-16T21:25:00.000-04:00I agree with Adam. No more flip-flops, please! DC is not a beach.<BR/><BR/>Also re: polos...I have a black one and a white one, and I never pop the collars...or wear shorts outside my apartment. That's ok, right?Hans Nelsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10159160431947708138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-29131802796227009802008-05-16T17:11:00.000-04:002008-05-16T17:11:00.000-04:00I am so glad I'm not the only one who obsessively checks the Evite that I've sent for several days to see who's responded, who's looked at it, and who is pretending they never got the e-mail.<BR/><BR/>And this year I, too, cannot get enough of the polo. Especially when the sweet but slightly clueless cashier at Express makes a mistake on a coupon and I end up with two $45 polos for $10 each.<BR/><BR/>STOP ME BEFORE I COMMIT POLO AGAIN.Greg McElhattonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07821210708381663086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33930404.post-67520253542498607352008-05-16T16:56:00.000-04:002008-05-16T16:56:00.000-04:00Grrrrrl - you clearly have never been to any of my house parties. You's a hater.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com