Delve into the jungle of the newly out and single. TNG Managing Editor Corey discusses dating and sex – or lack thereof – every Wednesday morning in Sexual Disorientation.

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I began to hear whispers of it in elementary school. They talked about it in the cafeteria, when the lunch ladies were distracted with more mundane tasks, and on the buses below the noise of the engine. During recess we would climb onto the jungle gym, out of the authority’s reach, and quietly say its name:

Sex.

Of course, it would take longer for some of us than others for the concept of sex to materialize. For gays, and especially “gold-star gays” – those who never had sex with a hetero partner before coming out – it may well have been a long wait from those days on the playground to finally making something happen. How many queer people have found themselves at twenty, or thirty, or dare-I-go-higher, without having really entered the world of sex and dating as a result of orientation complications?

Maybe a better question is, what happens when you do finally come out, often with mountains of baggage and sky-high expectations?

If you were wondering, I am on the left in the photo above, getting attacked by an Egyptian.

I graduate in May 2009 from Georgetown, where I do not fit in …